How Do We Deeply Listen To Another?

How do we deeply deeply listen to another? Our soul longs to offer its peace, and our human so often needs to be right. If the ego has taken a stance to justify being right, what lies just underneath its posturing? I often discover fear, translating as an inner child or inner adult statement of its value, or lack of. In a moment we can lose the opportunity to listen and affirm another if what is being shared is perceived as a threat. A choice arises. Will we remember to acknowledge worth to our hidden inner adults and children? I find this to be an important part of the work, moment by moment. It really does feel like a lost art of self-love, slowly returning.